I’m a single man in my 30s. My ex-girlfriend and I began relationship in 2015 and dropped our relationship two years in the past. Although we dated for some time, we resided in two completely different cities and thus met one another in particular person fairly just a few instances solely.
I’ve by no means requested her to do a factor for me, nor wished to lend her cash to demand something from her in change. I merely did so to assist her when she was in want.
She began by asking me to lend her just a few thousands and thousands of dong to spend money on her on-line enterprise. I despatched it to her with out considering twice as to me, that sum of money is nothing, and I appreciated her try and earn a living to assist her household. She then requested to borrow cash from me just a few extra instances, and as of early-2017, once we broke up, she owed me VND60 million.
She texted me two months after our breakup asking if I used to be too mad to speak to her. I nonetheless had emotions for her at the moment, so I replied to her, and we began speaking once more although we didn’t get again collectively. As she borrowed cash from me once more, I understood that she solely spoke to me when she struggled financially.
Regardless of that, I helped her at any time when she requested, and she or he mentioned she would have married me if it had not been for her household.
We finally put a particular finish to our relationship two years in the past as there was one time once I traveled hundreds of kilometers to Hanoi to see her, just for her to let me wait hours at her entrance door and refuse to fulfill me. She then despatched me an apology by way of textual content messages, during which she additionally mentioned she was grateful for my assist. She mentioned she had thought of “paying” me by getting married to me, however she determined that she couldn’t do it.
I used to be disillusioned, as I believed despite the fact that she didn’t need to see me anymore, she ought to have behaved in a extra respectful method.
As I keep in mind, she had borrowed some VND350 million from me. I as soon as messaged her that I wished to fulfill her in particular person to speak about this debt, to which she didn’t reply. I do know she doesn’t come from a rich household, so I didn’t need to take it severely and I’ve not talked about it once more to her.
Nonetheless, I’m wondering if what I’ve finished is true. I do know treating me nicely in change was not her accountability, and I lent her my cash just because I wished to assist. However I have no idea if being good to those that deal with me badly is true.
What ought to I do?