My sister-in-law, who’s of the identical age as me, married my husband’s older brother 5 months previous to our personal marriage ceremony. Each our households reside removed from dwelling and infrequently return to our in-laws’ hometown.
She and my brother-in-law have a son who’s three years previous, whereas my husband and I are dad and mom to a one-year-old daughter. Our interactions have been as soon as full of gratifying conversations. Over time, nonetheless, I started to note my sister-in-law’s tendency to boast, which I discover discomforting.
Her conversations ceaselessly focus on her son, as she narrates numerous anecdotes and lavishes reward upon him. She has a behavior of interrupting me whereas I communicate of my very own little one, to spotlight her son’s achievements and draw comparisons between the 2.
As an illustration, she boasts that her son started to roll over at three months, managed to crawl by six months, and was strolling by 9 months. But, within the presence of our mother-in-law, her story modifications, claiming he rolled over at 4 months, crawled at 9 months, and walked at a 12 months previous. The latter account, validated by my mother-in-law’s frequent interactions with my nephew, is correct.
Throughout one among our conversations, my mother-in-law talked about that my nephew was nonetheless breastfeeding at 20 months. Contrarily, my sister-in-law claimed the next week that he had been weaned off for a number of months.
She as soon as alarmed me by stating her son had a excessive fever of 40-41 levels Celsius one afternoon; nonetheless, upon my go to that night, he appeared completely wholesome, engaged in consuming and enjoying. But, just a few days later, she knowledgeable our mother-in-law that her son had been unwell for 3 weeks earlier than making a restoration.
Additionally, she ceaselessly attracts comparisons between her son and my daughter in an try and show her son’s superiority.
Whereas my household has not but acquired a automobile or home, my husband has opted for a rented self-driving automobile for our comfort since my being pregnant, facilitating our visits to his hometown. My sister-in-law usually requests rides, citing her little one as justification, which leads to extra hours of journey for us as a result of her residence being in a distinct route.
These points, albeit minor, have been dismissed by my husband upon dialogue. But, I stay uneasy.
Ought to I overlook these issues as effectively and endeavor to reinforce my rapport along with her?