My intention is to not go judgment on others’ wedding ceremony invitation decisions. I merely want to share my story to offer a private viewpoint.
Born within the late 80s, I’m the eldest son in my household. However, my spouse is the youngest daughter. Throughout our 2017 wedding ceremony, the bride’s aspect had fewer visitors, because the elders remarked that my in-laws “had already hosted two weddings for visitors to return and settle their money owed.”
As for my household, my dad and mom view a marriage as a joyous event for the couple in addition to the entire household. Subsequently, they imagine it’s inappropriate to ask visitors who would attend solely to “repay a debt.” Consequently, my dad and mom and I invited solely shut family members and associates. We excluded distant family members and acquaintances to maintain the visitor record compact.
Relating to these whose weddings I had attended however with whom I had since grown distant and was now not shut, I made a decision firmly to not invite them simply to “repay a debt.”
Consequently, our wedding ceremony was small and intimate, surprisingly so for a lot of. This didn’t detract from the enjoyment of the day. On the major ceremony, all 100 visitors stood up, applauding and smiling with us, a distinction to only specializing in their meals as usually occurs at weddings.
A few of my shut associates even stood as much as communicate, recounting humorous and touching tales about their experiences with us, filling the room with laughter and emotion. These moments turned my wedding ceremony into a set of gorgeous, unforgettable reminiscences.
After the marriage, just a few individuals expressed their disappointment at not being invited. I responded with a smile and a request for understanding, saying, “I used to be so busy with many issues that I forgot and couldn’t invite everybody.”
As they weren’t shut sufficient to harbor any actual resentment, normalcy quickly returned, and the difficulty was ultimately laughed off. If anybody did maintain a grudge, that was their prerogative.
That is my reflection on the tradition of wedding ceremony invites in Vietnam. What are your ideas on this subject?