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I’m a 34-year-old feminine public servant, married with a son. I’m residing within the family of my partner’s household.
My earnings are sufficient for our livelihood, but we reside with little extra. Regardless of sharing a house with my in-laws, we regularly dine individually or eat exterior, primarily coming again to sleep at night time.
My mother-in-law lacks hygiene practices. She locations meat or the roots of inexperienced onions, soil included, instantly onto the dish rack. After utilizing the chopping board for uncooked meat or fish, she scarcely cleans it and makes use of it once more for slicing garlic or chilies for fish sauce with out hesitation. The lids of pots, even when coated in grease, are left unwashed by her. She rapidly rinses a bowl used for hen blood earlier than serving rice to my father-in-law in it.
She additionally neglects to comb our residence, at the same time as garbage piles up, but dedicates her days to spreading gossip all through the village, delving into others’ affairs. Typically, upon my return from work at twilight, I discover myself needing to scrub any kitchenware I want to use beforehand, which results in oblique critiques from my mother-in-law. She means that if I discover her requirements too lax, I ought to go for a separate area, regardless of my by no means having requested her to undertake any duties.
Her remedy towards her daughters-in-law varies considerably. Throughout my second being pregnant, she displayed no heat, resorting to calling me by belittling nicknames as a substitute of my title. Distraught, I spent a number of nights in tears, ultimately ensuing within the lack of my baby.
On my days off, I try to arrange varied meals for her, solely to face her disapproval, whereas she lauds her youngest daughter-in-law for the occasional meal, boasting about it to our neighbors.
Following a vehicular accident that left me with a sprained ankle, rendering me unable to work, she didn’t as soon as inquire after my well being. But, she instantly reached out to her youngest daughter-in-law underneath comparable circumstances, highlighting the preferential remedy regardless of my unwavering dedication to our family chores after tiresome workdays.
Moreover, when distributing land amongst her offspring, my mother-in-law remained silent as others bought their shares for enterprise functions. Nonetheless, when my husband and I made a decision to promote our portion for revenue, she berated my mom and criticized our determination for not consulting her, accusing us of mismanaging our ancestral legacy.
At occasions, after a day at work, I select to not trade phrases with my mother-in-law. My disdain for her grows, and maybe, ought to my husband consent to relocating, my bitterness in the direction of her may diminish.
Am I fallacious for feeling this fashion in the direction of my mother-in-law? What ought to I do now?