I’ve been eager about breaking apart with my boyfriend currently in order that he doesn’t should work onerous to attempt to afford a home for us anymore.
We began relationship half a 12 months in the past. We’ve talked concerning the future we wish: each of us wish to reside collectively in our personal home as an alternative of a rented home. However since my boyfriend doesn’t obtain monetary help from his dad and mom, he’s struggling to lift his revenue, which makes him usually work till 2-3 a.m.
He’s additionally very pressured about saving and incomes extra money to afford our personal home with out counting on his dad and mom’ help.
Nonetheless, I feel a part of the issue is as a result of I’ve by no means met my boyfriend’s dad and mom even by way of video name, not to mention in particular person. When his dad and mom name whereas I am with him, he avoids letting me communicate to them.
In the meantime, I’ve been extra comfy with introducing him to my dad and mom, and my dad and mom stated they supported our relationship and our future plan.
I do know that individuals usually fastidiously take into account earlier than introducing a associate to their dad and mom, however I really feel actually damage due to how he acts. My instinct tells me it is not that his dad and mom are unwilling to help him financially, however fairly that they’ve by no means met me, in order that they have no idea how I look, whether or not I’m a good particular person or not, they usually thus worry he may get scammed by me. I feel if my boyfriend had been to introduce me to his dad and mom, they could change their minds.
Nonetheless, I can not persuade my boyfriend to let me meet his dad and mom. I really like him, and I do know he actually loves me too, since he accepts to stick with me in my hometown as an alternative of relocating to Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh Metropolis, the place he can discover extra alternatives to earn increased salaries.
However I am uncertain how lengthy it is going to take to avoid wasting sufficient for a home if he persists in his method. I are not looking for him to have a tough life due to me both.
Ought to I break up with him to let each him and me not be drained anymore?