I’ve been fascinated with breaking apart with my boyfriend recently in order that he doesn’t should work onerous to attempt to afford a home for us anymore.
We began courting half a 12 months in the past. We’ve talked in regards to the future we wish: each of us need to dwell collectively in our personal home as an alternative of a rented home. However since my boyfriend doesn’t obtain monetary assist from his dad and mom, he’s struggling to lift his earnings, which makes him usually work till 2-3 a.m.
He’s additionally very pressured about saving and incomes more cash to afford our personal home with out counting on his dad and mom’ assist.
Nonetheless, I feel a part of the issue is as a result of I’ve by no means met my boyfriend’s dad and mom even through video name, not to mention in particular person. When his dad and mom name whereas I am with him, he avoids letting me converse to them.
In the meantime, I’ve been extra comfy with introducing him to my dad and mom, and my dad and mom mentioned they supported our relationship and our future plan.
I do know that folks usually fastidiously contemplate earlier than introducing a accomplice to their dad and mom, however I really feel actually damage due to how he acts. My instinct tells me it isn’t that his dad and mom are unwilling to assist him financially, however relatively that they’ve by no means met me, in order that they have no idea how I look, whether or not I’m an honest particular person or not, and so they thus concern he may get scammed by me. I feel if my boyfriend have been to introduce me to his dad and mom, they may change their minds.
Nonetheless, I can’t persuade my boyfriend to let me meet his dad and mom. I like him, and I do know he actually loves me too, since he accepts to stick with me in my hometown as an alternative of relocating to Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh Metropolis, the place he can discover extra alternatives to earn larger salaries.
However I am uncertain how lengthy it would take to save lots of sufficient for a home if he persists in his strategy. I are not looking for him to have a tough life due to me both.
Ought to I break up with him to let each him and me not be drained anymore?